gloomy in a bright way.

I'm gloomy in a bright way, in psychology, its called defensive pessimism.....
Here, i'm going to answer a question you've been dying to ask me....
"Why do you think that way?"...you find it weird that  think "this" way, I want to tell you that I find you weird for thinking that. You are not obliged to understand my train of thought, you do that out of your own need to make sense of everything, to put everything in a neat little corner. Its your schema, and not trying to understand how a person thinks just does not fit into your scaffolding on the way you see and arrange life. I don't have a problem with you trying to figure me out, i have a problem with you judging me for it. If its my coping technique, let me be. what is normal is what works for you, if it doesn't work for you, it's abnormal and it doesn't matter how many people see it as conventional, it will always be unusual to you. The relationship issue is such a controversial one and i'm generally drawn to controversy. After an argument with a person, i can tell you he hasnt talked to me since then. This particular post is directed at him. He asked why i was not in a relationship and i said because i was not "asked" to be in one. so he went on about how it was not right and how i should let go and a lot of nonsense. I did not give him a reason to not explain his point of view and when he was done, i pointed out that i did not mention being uncomfortable with the idea.
to that point of view was my reply that getting "asked" was not the relationship itself, it was just a thing people decided was the ideal way to get into a relationship. Having the title boyfriend or girlfriend as a status will not change what happens ina relationship will it? if while being a "girlfriend" i can do what a "single" girl will do, is there a point to holding that title? why is it a stigma to be single? its almost equivalent to being fat nowadays. i did not have this point of view, until a year ago, and i know this is where you tell me that im just being scared and wimpy but ill tell you that shit is gonna happen regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not. He or she will cheat without regard for one if they wanted to. Back to the question, "why do you think like that?" if it is to truly understand how i think without judgment, it is because i see the part you dont see, i see the gray areas while you see white and black, I observe the facet you did not consider and you regard the position i had my back to. if you ask that question judgmentally, and you think im weird in  the way i think, I AM. Its the least of the worst things that could happen. Pull your head outta your asshole and see that everyone cannot and should not think the same way.